Everybody Knows The End

Melissa. Twenty-something. New Zealand. 1/2 Taiwanese. Sometimes actress, singer, dancer. Always writer, artist, single mother. Nerd. I like pretty things. I live and breathe musical theatre. And books. A lot of books.

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"A Sticky Situation" (1960) by Carl Barks

I like how advertising is literally still exactly as sexist as they’re joking about in this comic from 54 years ago.

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Awwwwwww cutie

that awkward moment when deadpool is a better person than you because you would have just stole the pizza and not given a fuck

dead pool isn’t really a villian like, most of his comics  are just being like a slightly mentally challenged selfish 5 year old with an incredibly dirty mind who hits on spiderman all the time and is aware at all times of the forth wall. oh and it is literally impossible to kill him so he gets a bit reckless at times

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You know, Peter Parker is a great hero for the millennial generation because he’s always struggling economically and old newspaper editors think he’s a menace.

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Victim blaming




Okay, so there’s a fuckton of shit surrounding things that Carrie Fletcher have supposedly said ‘victim blaming’, and I think it’s something I need to talk about. First of all, if there were someone that irresponsible, who would be pro-victim blaming, then they would NOT have the audience Carrie has. So before you start spouting shit about how awful she is, think about whether maybe it’s YOU who’s misunderstood. That’s kinda a universal problem with the internet: you will NEVER take responsibility for your own actions.

So Carrie basically said that it’s important to say ‘no’, when you don’t want to do anything with your partner, and people are turning it into this massive ‘OMG SHE’S VICTIM BLAMING’ ‘CARRIE!!1 YOU CANT TELL VICTIMS TO LOOK AFTER THEMSELVES!!!!!1’. And I think you all need to take a trip to the bathroom because you are literally talking bullshit.

Of course, it’s so important that we as a society educate young people so they don’t grow up to be abusers. But we can’t just rely on that. We teach kids not to murder, yet there are still murderers. Rapists are mentally ill people [NOT, might I add, incredibly horny people. Do some research.], and as much as we can discourage it, and educate people about it, there will always be people out there who do it. 

So, what, we just leave it at that? No. What Carrie said is very important. It is vital that we teach young people, especially young girls who tend to be more vulnerable to these things, how to defend themselves and look after themselves in a situation. When you get on an aeroplane, you trust the pilot not to crash the plane, but you are told what to do just in CASE the plane does crash. It’s a similar concept: you do everything you can to prevent rapists from existing, but it’s still majorly important that you give potential-victims the knowledge they need to help them should they find themselves in a dangerous situation. 

One of the points Carrie keeps bringing up is that ‘you can only be responsible for yourself’ or ‘you can only control your own actions’. This is absolutely true. And many of you are acting like it’s wrong to to everything within your power to keep yourself safe JUST because it’s not your fault you’re in that situation.

Yeah - it’s NOT your fault you’re in the situation. Nothing justifies rape. Nothing. The victim isn’t to blame at all. But what are you suggesting? That the victim just suffer because it’s the abuser who is in the wrong? That the victim shouldn’t have to do anything?

Well crawl out of your bedroom, my friend, and see the world for what it fucking is. It’s not sunshine and daisies. Just because we educate people NOT to rape, does not stop rapists being a thing. Okay? And so the next step we take is encouraging potential-victims to help themselves where they can. And you are all acting like that’s a bad thing. If you end up in a situation with which you’re uncomfortable, you HAVE to know what to do to try and stop it. Just because you taught someone not to rape isn’t going to wipe rape out, and in saying ‘teach the abuser!!’ well, once the rape has happened, it’s a bit late for that, isn’t it?

Responsibility is a two-way street. After having a similar discussion with my dad once, we came up with this analogy: ‘It’s illegal to hit a person with your car, and a driver who does so will go to jail. But that doesn’t mean we walk in the roads and take no responsibility for ourselves. You do everything you can to keep yourself safe, despite the fact that you’re not the one to blame.

So if you’re not willing to help yourself, then fine, that’s your problem. But don’t fucking attack someone who is trying to encourage it to those who might.

That analogy is BANG ON! Bravo!


I have a few problems with this. 

1) How large someone’s audience is has nothing to do with their ability to be responsible or not victim blame. Given that so many of the abusers have/had large audiences, I feel it should be obvious that number of followers does not equal moral high ground.

2) Saying that people should learn to protect themselves and that responsibility is a two-way street, discussing this in terms of not putting yourselves into bad situations…that is victim blaming. That is what you are doing. “If s/he hadn’t been drunk,” “if s/he hadn’t worn that,” “if s/he hadn’t been alone at night,” are all victim blaming. Doing this says, “Well, it’s not your *fault*, but you didn’t *stop* it.” Which implies that you could have.

Yes, people should be educated about what sexual assault is, what rape is, what abuse is, what they can do when they find themselves in those situations. These are useful things to know. However, acting like people won’t be raped or assaulted simply by doing The Right Thing is so grossly incorrect I can’t really wrap my head around it. People can do everything “right” and still get hurt. To use your plane analogy: what if the oxygen mask fails? What if your life jacket doesn’t inflate? To use your car analogy: what if one of the drivers is drunk and runs onto the sidewalk? 

On another note, knowing what you should do doesn’t necessarily mean that you can do it. When you’re safe, you can easily imagine yelling, or fighting, or running, or any number of things. But when it’s actually happening, all that can fly out of your head in a second. You’re so frightened you don’t remember what to do, you’re so stunned you can’t move, and if you know the person - well, it can be hard to imagine hurting them. It can be hard to accept that they’re actually doing the things they are.

Abusers, especially emotional abusers, make a habit of confusing their victims. In retrospect, or from the outside, their abuse can be very easy to see. From the front lines, not so much. Before you can react, you have to know what’s happening - and for many victims, you don’t know. Or you know, but you don’t want to admit it. You might love the person. You might fear them. You might have a sense of pride about it. “Oh, I would never get involved with someone who’d do something like that. I’m too smart. I know too much about it.” 

Guess what? Shit happens. Horrible things happen to wonderful people. There is no one “type” of victim. There’s no cookie cutter profile. Acting as though there’s a step-by-step system for avoiding being a victim implies that only some people count - those that did exactly what society said would work, and then got hurt anyway. And that is simply not the case. 

You’re right, it would be wonderful to live in a world where the people who are actually responsible for abuse - the abusers - would not do what they’re doing. That would be great. It would also be amazing to live in the world you suggest, where “taking responsibility,” as you put it, meant automatic safety.

Unfortunately, we live in neither world, and suggesting that we do is judgmental, unfair, and deeply damaging to victims. I guarantee you that they have thought of each and every thing they could have possibly done to protect themselves (even if they were not actually feasible), feel guilty already, and that all you’re doing is making someone already suffering from trauma feel worse.

You are victim blaming. You don’t want to admit it, because it’s not a nice thing to do, but that is what you’re doing. 


A victim who’d rather you not.



Super cosplayer Jay Justice

Cosplayer deviantart / facebook / tumblr

I didn’t post this, but thanks to OP for crediting me! And wow at all the comments & tags! Most of them had me cracking up but this one was not so good:
"you can really overlook skin color on how f*cking fantastic the cosplay is"

Skin color is not something negative you have to overlook to appreciate the ‘rest of’ the person you are looking at. It is not a flaw that you have to ignore in order to admire someone’s work. The person who said this was not complimenting me but exposing their own racial bias.

My skin color is not something ‘wrong’ with my costumes. Being a black woman enhances my costumes. Black women are the beautiful flowers that white supremacy tried to kill but we kept growing anyway. They try to tell us we’re ugly and dirty and sadly some of us start to believe it. They sell us skin bleach & hair straighteners, and white wash our characters and expect us to be complacent. When we speak out we’re told we’re too loud and angry and unfeminine.

I appreciate all the kind words on this post but I want to say that it’s not a compliment to express approval of someone ‘in spite of’ that person’s race. If you can’t appreciate my work without a negative remark about my skin color, the problem most certainly is not with me but within you.

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i imagine both steve and bucky like to come up with different ways to poke fun at sam every time they pass him during jogging

because they are shitheads

(the first one is a print you can get here)

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